It’s difficult to practice “letting go” when life gets tough. Sometimes you don’t feel ready to forgive, or to stop being angry.

The thing is, you can’t just let go of the emotional responses you have to an experience or a person. It doesn’t work like that. Because what’s actually gotten to you – what’s really bothersome and heavy – is the deeper desire to control your life and the things that happen.

When we feel like we’re not in control, we get stuck.

So when you’re in that place: Lie down on the floor or your bed and close your eyes. Feel into your body and your mind. See what’s there, swimming around in the murky depths. Don’t shy away – get curious and come closer.

Breathe into whatever you’re feeling. Bring it into your awareness, all the way down to your toes.

Allow all of your feelings and fears and troubles to been seen, to be known.

After a while (maybe a minute, maybe a year) you might begin to loosen your grip. Maybe you’ll soften and expand until you’re no longer entwined and wishing for control.

That’s “letting go”. It’s simple. Quiet. It’s powerful… and sometimes a little scary.

But I know you can do it.

May you be courageous and willing.